[She hesitates on explaining just what that experience was. It's not that she thinks Toph couldn't handle it--as though there is a way to "handle" a living person telling you that they have experienced death--but it would be a shock, and it would ruin Toph's lighthearted ease about the difficulties of a desert crossing.
On the other hand, Ethlyn can hear for herself that the awkwardness of her response needs some kind of explanation.]
[ Toph's not used to hearing Ethlyn sound like that, subdued and even... sad? She, too, has a sense of timing for important conversations, and this doesn't seem like it. Not when they're about to launch on a big world-saving mission to do... something... with a computer.
Hey, Toph's just here to be muscle. ]
Yeah, the time I've spent in a desert pretty much sucked, [ she agrees bluntly. Losing Appa while the library sunk into the sand is Toph's worst personal failure to in her young life, and it haunts her. ] After that I swore I'd learn sandbending. I haven't had a chance to use it since -- nice to know all that work isn't gonna go to waste.
[Ethlyn chuckles at Toph's matter-of-fact agreement. It's good to know that deserts universally seem to be bad places to spend your time. (All right, it's a sample size of two, but who's counting.)
And good for Toph, really, in committing herself to doing better the next time. Ethlyn isn't sure how she would manage that, apart from never making the mistake of trying to cross with a horse again, but these bending powers offer more possibilities.]
It sounds like you've gotten pretty good at if if you're able to move an entire boat across using it. Is this like the way you skim across the fields on the soil?
[ Toph doesn't think everyone needs to learn something from a personal tragedy or turn it into a new skill, but for her, learning there was a type of earthbending out there she couldn't do was basically an insult. Not only that, but she was essentially actually blind on the sand until she figured it out, and she got Appa kidnapped because of her helplessness.
No way was Toph Beifong going to let that stand. ]
Actually, it's completely different, [ Toph answers, voice brightening. ] That's why I couldn't figure it out at first. I was really blind the first time I came to the desert.
Since sand acts more like water, my usual techniques don't work at all. Sand is all individual grains that are kinda far apart. Compared to dirt, I mean. Dirt is more or less one big thing, really compacted, but with sand I'm moving a lot of tiny things at once. It takes a much more gentle touch, more like asking than insisting.
[ She sees an opportunity to help Ethlyn take her mind off of bad memories, so she goes a little deeper into the bending mechanics than she normally would. But it is also, sincerely, her favorite topic, so it's not like it's a hardship. ]
...I never would have thought of it that way. But that does make a lot of sense. It's so much different just walking over somewhere sandy like a beach compared to the road leading up to it. And it behaves differently when it's wet, too.
[Ethlyn appreciates Toph getting into the nitty-gritty (har har) of how exactly it works--thinking about how sand behaves as a substance is better than thinking about what happened on it.]
I guess when you get down to it, sand is really just... thousands of tiny, tiny little rocks, isn't it? Whereas dirt--I've never really thought what dirt is actually made out of, but it isn't that. And the pieces of it are much smaller.
[ Toph has the approving attitude of a teacher with a student who grasped the lesson. ]
And metal is even more compacted, obviously. It's purified down to a few specific components. Dirt is all kinds of things. Benders can get really comfortable with one form of their element, so other forms can be tricky. It's like you have to unlearn everything you already know.
Since I didn't learn from normal teachers, anyway, I didn't have as much to unlearn. [ Toph definitely credits the badger-moles for a lot of her aptitude and skill with earthbending. She doesn't doubt if she'd grown up actually listening to those blowhards who think they've solved every aspect of the field, she'd be as hidebound and limited as they are. ]
It takes so much effort to render metal out of stone, I would be surprised if it wasn't difficult. [Back in her grandparents' time, it took a smith a full day of work to smelt a chunk of steel that was only the size of his own clenched fist. Things have progressed further now--well, in the "now" of Jugdral--but it's still laborious and expensive.] Who were your teachers? I learned my healing from other healers and my fighting from knights, but it sounds like your education was considerably more irregular.
Oh, I learned from badger-moles! They're the original earthbenders. Here, I'll show you --
[ An advantage to being at the edge of the desert, finally: Toph sweeps her arms around in much more flowing motions than her usual, and a massive towering form takes shape from swirling sand, the grains shushing against one another as they move.
It's a huge badger-mole, of course, essentially eye level with them at their position on the boat. ]
I found them when I was really little. They're blind, like me.
[ It's obvious Toph loves her teachers, and that they'd meant a lot to her, given her the conviction that she didn't need to be the helpless dependent her parents believed her to be just because she's blind. ]
Yup, this is life size. And thanks, like I said, I really had to work on my sandbending!
[ Toph laughs a little, a clean, girlish sound in contrast to her more common mischievous snickering. She relaxes her posture and the sand collapses in waves. ]
They don't talk, but they don't really need to. I can understand them just fine. I spent years listening to them, feeling what they were doing with my earthbending senses. I knew if they were doing it then there was a way for me to, too.
Well, your sandbending teachers would be very impressed.
[Toph's tale of learning from the badger-moles by intuition and observation throws Ethlyn's mind back to stories of Loptrian times, children abandoned or escaped from the child hunts finding safety with the creatures of the forest.]
You know, where I'm from, there are stories of children orphaned or escaped from captivity who were raised by creatures of the forest. Usually the tales have them raised by wolves, but... I never thought to meet someone where that was actually true.
[ Her sandbending teacher is actually herself, but since this is a thing Toph had really had to work on, like she'd said, the compliment means something to her. Unlike her normal attitude where she's taking praise as her due, in this case she's genuinely pleased. ]
They didn't literally raise me -- I have parents, you know. They just really didn't know what to do with me.
I had this formal earthbending teacher and he was all, Oh wow, Miss Beifong, you floated a single pebble! So much more than we ever expected of you!
[ Toph has an exaggerated mocking tone, but honestly it isn't that far off from the actual guy. Who'd go on to try to kidnap her for her parents, too. What an asshole. ]
[It's a joke, but Ethlyn even at her most interfering would know what a disastrous thing that would be to say to someone like Toph, who wears her pride like her clothes: so accustomed she doesn't even think about it.]
What foolishness. Were you an only child who was too precious to risk on anything more dangerous than stairs, or are your siblings so numerous that they thought they could safely ignore you?
[ Toph suddenly seems to turn inward, turning away and facing the endless landscape of sand off the bow of the skiff. ]
For a long time I tried to be the precious little gift they wanted me to be, you know? [ She leans on the railing alongside the edge of the boat, slumping. ] It's not like I wanted to disappoint them. That's just not who I am.
[ Maybe it becomes more evident how Toph had ended up finding solace in unspeaking badger-moles. ]
[As Toph turns away, Ethlyn regards her softly. An only child. An only child and a daughter, bearing the weight of her family's expectations, and yet at the same time those expectations are of no expectation--which is worse.]
It's hard to carry all that weight before you really understand what it all means. [She can sense, behind Toph's words, that those distant parents still don't understand their daughter... that if she's going to be able to prove herself to them, it hasn't happened yet.] And then when you do, it's even harder.
...It's all about upholding your family name and making your mother and father proud. But that only works so far as you can hold onto your own pride in doing so.
[She thinks of her friends who turned on their families... so many of them. Tailtiu, Azelle, Lex, Jamke... all of made the hardest decision a person could possibly make. Ethlyn doubts that Toph's parents were involved in anything like treason and regicide (SHE HOPES) but no matter what the cause, it's a terrible decision to be forced into.]
[ She's not surprised that it seems like Ethlyn understands it. A lot of people here are from entirely different places, more like Aldrip these days then unlike it. Ethlyn is one of the few who seems to be from a relatively comparable background.
Toph has been getting increasingly homesick lately. Initially this seemed like a fun adventure, a break to her post-war boredom, but as time goes on she's started to realize how many little things she took for granted at home that are missing here, whose absence just makes her feel so alien and different. It's not a feeling she needs any help reinforcing, considering she already tends to feel that way.
She rests her chin on her hands. ] They're being really stupid about it. [ She sounds frustrated, morose, but not truly angry. ] I'm the most famous Beifong there's ever been. I helped end the war! I invented metalbending! I teach the Avatar! If anything, they're probably getting asked if they're related to me.
[ Who gets to decide whose name it is, anyway? But Toph doesn't really want to take it over as her own, without her parents at all. She wants them to come around. ]
But it's like that embarrasses them. The proper delicate girl they want just isn't me. So yeah-- I learned from the badger-moles, without talking. It was a pretty nice change.
You would think they'd have learned to appreciate that level of prestige by now. I've never understood myself how people can be so utterly pigheaded about things like that.
I have a friend... in fact, I have a few... who are in the same boat. Their parents wanted them to be one way, but for one reason or another, they just couldn't be that.
[If all Toph's parents feel about her is a sense of social embarrassment, then it's not likely to come to swords and treasons the way matters did for Jamke--and would do for Tailtiu, Azelle, and Lex. But Ethlyn is sure that it wouldn't have reached such extremes if there hadn't been problems long before. She knew that Lex was his father's less favored son, that Azelle grew up terrified of his brother's ruthless reputation.]
Some parents build out your whole life in their heads the moment you're born. How dare you challenge their preconceived notions? What a disrespectful thing for a child to do, making them try to think differently than the way they want to.
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[She hesitates on explaining just what that experience was. It's not that she thinks Toph couldn't handle it--as though there is a way to "handle" a living person telling you that they have experienced death--but it would be a shock, and it would ruin Toph's lighthearted ease about the difficulties of a desert crossing.
On the other hand, Ethlyn can hear for herself that the awkwardness of her response needs some kind of explanation.]
It's an unpleasant memory. That's all.
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Hey, Toph's just here to be muscle. ]
Yeah, the time I've spent in a desert pretty much sucked, [ she agrees bluntly. Losing Appa while the library sunk into the sand is Toph's worst personal failure to in her young life, and it haunts her. ] After that I swore I'd learn sandbending. I haven't had a chance to use it since -- nice to know all that work isn't gonna go to waste.
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And good for Toph, really, in committing herself to doing better the next time. Ethlyn isn't sure how she would manage that, apart from never making the mistake of trying to cross with a horse again, but these bending powers offer more possibilities.]
It sounds like you've gotten pretty good at if if you're able to move an entire boat across using it. Is this like the way you skim across the fields on the soil?
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No way was Toph Beifong going to let that stand. ]
Actually, it's completely different, [ Toph answers, voice brightening. ] That's why I couldn't figure it out at first. I was really blind the first time I came to the desert.
Since sand acts more like water, my usual techniques don't work at all. Sand is all individual grains that are kinda far apart. Compared to dirt, I mean. Dirt is more or less one big thing, really compacted, but with sand I'm moving a lot of tiny things at once. It takes a much more gentle touch, more like asking than insisting.
[ She sees an opportunity to help Ethlyn take her mind off of bad memories, so she goes a little deeper into the bending mechanics than she normally would. But it is also, sincerely, her favorite topic, so it's not like it's a hardship. ]
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[Ethlyn appreciates Toph getting into the nitty-gritty (har har) of how exactly it works--thinking about how sand behaves as a substance is better than thinking about what happened on it.]
I guess when you get down to it, sand is really just... thousands of tiny, tiny little rocks, isn't it? Whereas dirt--I've never really thought what dirt is actually made out of, but it isn't that. And the pieces of it are much smaller.
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[ Toph has the approving attitude of a teacher with a student who grasped the lesson. ]
And metal is even more compacted, obviously. It's purified down to a few specific components. Dirt is all kinds of things. Benders can get really comfortable with one form of their element, so other forms can be tricky. It's like you have to unlearn everything you already know.
Since I didn't learn from normal teachers, anyway, I didn't have as much to unlearn. [ Toph definitely credits the badger-moles for a lot of her aptitude and skill with earthbending. She doesn't doubt if she'd grown up actually listening to those blowhards who think they've solved every aspect of the field, she'd be as hidebound and limited as they are. ]
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[ An advantage to being at the edge of the desert, finally: Toph sweeps her arms around in much more flowing motions than her usual, and a massive towering form takes shape from swirling sand, the grains shushing against one another as they move.
It's a huge badger-mole, of course, essentially eye level with them at their position on the boat. ]
I found them when I was really little. They're blind, like me.
[ It's obvious Toph loves her teachers, and that they'd meant a lot to her, given her the conviction that she didn't need to be the helpless dependent her parents believed her to be just because she's blind. ]
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Badgers are small and moles are smaller. Ethlyn was imagining something that size... not this truly massive creature looming over them both.]
I had no idea you could do that.
Are they... really that big? How did they teach you, can they talk?
[talking animals exist in other places, right?? if people can travel the stars and time, seems legit, right???]
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[ Toph laughs a little, a clean, girlish sound in contrast to her more common mischievous snickering. She relaxes her posture and the sand collapses in waves. ]
They don't talk, but they don't really need to. I can understand them just fine. I spent years listening to them, feeling what they were doing with my earthbending senses. I knew if they were doing it then there was a way for me to, too.
I just kept practicing.
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[Toph's tale of learning from the badger-moles by intuition and observation throws Ethlyn's mind back to stories of Loptrian times, children abandoned or escaped from the child hunts finding safety with the creatures of the forest.]
You know, where I'm from, there are stories of children orphaned or escaped from captivity who were raised by creatures of the forest. Usually the tales have them raised by wolves, but... I never thought to meet someone where that was actually true.
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They didn't literally raise me -- I have parents, you know. They just really didn't know what to do with me.
I had this formal earthbending teacher and he was all, Oh wow, Miss Beifong, you floated a single pebble! So much more than we ever expected of you!
[ Toph has an exaggerated mocking tone, but honestly it isn't that far off from the actual guy. Who'd go on to try to kidnap her for her parents, too. What an asshole. ]
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[It's a joke, but Ethlyn even at her most interfering would know what a disastrous thing that would be to say to someone like Toph, who wears her pride like her clothes: so accustomed she doesn't even think about it.]
What foolishness. Were you an only child who was too precious to risk on anything more dangerous than stairs, or are your siblings so numerous that they thought they could safely ignore you?
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[ Toph suddenly seems to turn inward, turning away and facing the endless landscape of sand off the bow of the skiff. ]
For a long time I tried to be the precious little gift they wanted me to be, you know? [ She leans on the railing alongside the edge of the boat, slumping. ] It's not like I wanted to disappoint them. That's just not who I am.
[ Maybe it becomes more evident how Toph had ended up finding solace in unspeaking badger-moles. ]
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It's hard to carry all that weight before you really understand what it all means. [She can sense, behind Toph's words, that those distant parents still don't understand their daughter... that if she's going to be able to prove herself to them, it hasn't happened yet.] And then when you do, it's even harder.
...It's all about upholding your family name and making your mother and father proud. But that only works so far as you can hold onto your own pride in doing so.
[She thinks of her friends who turned on their families... so many of them. Tailtiu, Azelle, Lex, Jamke... all of made the hardest decision a person could possibly make. Ethlyn doubts that Toph's parents were involved in anything like treason and regicide (SHE HOPES) but no matter what the cause, it's a terrible decision to be forced into.]
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Toph has been getting increasingly homesick lately. Initially this seemed like a fun adventure, a break to her post-war boredom, but as time goes on she's started to realize how many little things she took for granted at home that are missing here, whose absence just makes her feel so alien and different. It's not a feeling she needs any help reinforcing, considering she already tends to feel that way.
She rests her chin on her hands. ] They're being really stupid about it. [ She sounds frustrated, morose, but not truly angry. ] I'm the most famous Beifong there's ever been. I helped end the war! I invented metalbending! I teach the Avatar! If anything, they're probably getting asked if they're related to me.
[ Who gets to decide whose name it is, anyway? But Toph doesn't really want to take it over as her own, without her parents at all. She wants them to come around. ]
But it's like that embarrasses them. The proper delicate girl they want just isn't me. So yeah-- I learned from the badger-moles, without talking. It was a pretty nice change.
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I have a friend... in fact, I have a few... who are in the same boat. Their parents wanted them to be one way, but for one reason or another, they just couldn't be that.
[If all Toph's parents feel about her is a sense of social embarrassment, then it's not likely to come to swords and treasons the way matters did for Jamke--and would do for Tailtiu, Azelle, and Lex. But Ethlyn is sure that it wouldn't have reached such extremes if there hadn't been problems long before. She knew that Lex was his father's less favored son, that Azelle grew up terrified of his brother's ruthless reputation.]
Some parents build out your whole life in their heads the moment you're born. How dare you challenge their preconceived notions? What a disrespectful thing for a child to do, making them try to think differently than the way they want to.